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Hell on earth is not a place but a state of mind!
Have you lived in fear, cowered when a hand is raised, felt empty and alone, or felt that your life has been stolen from you because anxiety and depression is nipping at your heals? Is your laughter gone? Has your spirit been broken, and the word hope is no longer in your vocabulary? I was once in that dark place of no return. My mind, body, heart and soul were broken into a million pieces, and the fear running through my veins were earth shattering. My brain was numb to all rational thinking and thoughts of suicide were like taking a common every day breath. The only thing that saved me was a moment of clarity to realize that I couldn't leave my young children behind with this person I was married to. My isolation and captivity was complete. I am still in counseling for PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) 3 years later, but I am finding out who I really am for the first time in my life. I am loving, smart, funny, and most of all I have learned that I am a good wife and a good mother after 21 years of hearing I wasn't good enough for anything. My life has been forever changed, and life is good. Challenges still arise, but with my new husband and my family always there for me with unconditional love and support I am
making it one day at a time.
My dream is that one day divorce courts will address mental, verbal and psychological (emotional) abuse as a prosecutable offense. The scars run deep and wide with all forms of abuse, just because you can't see them, doesn't mean they don't exist.Research is starting to show that mental abuse is longer lasting to its victims than physical abuse. I can now say I am a survivor!
Hope is something I never had, until my escape became a reality not a dream. Hope is now a wonderful word in my vocabulary, and fear is a thing of the past. My number one goal is to finish school with a PHD degree in Pyschology so that I can help women and men, who are still in that dark place of no return and to keep my children safe and showing them that they are loved. I want to show victims that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and a freedom of the soul they never thought possible. Abused women and men need to know that there is life after they go through hell on earth, a traumatic experience, that will forever change who they are and who they can be.

Thursday, November 15, 2012

World News: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: AUSTRALIA

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Published: Oct. 26, 2012 at 4:25 PM
SYDNEY, Oct. 26 (UPI) -- Australia has become a global pioneer in paid time off and other workplace accommodations for victims of domestic violence, advocates say.
About 700,000 people are now eligible for domestic violence leave, the Sydney Morning Herald reported. They include state employees in New South Wales, employees of 20 local councils in Victoria and those at Queensland Rail.
Ludo McFerran, head of the Safe at Home Safe at Work project at the University of New South Wales, said she expects more private employers to come on board soon.
Employers with domestic violence leave have managers trained in dealing with victims. They offer a range of accommodations, depending on the situation, including paid time off, flexible hours and changes in email addresses and telephone numbers at work.
''It is pleasing that where society silently ignored domestic violence, we are increasingly willing to speak out against its perpetrators and support its victims. This should extend to the workplace,'' Bill Shorten, the national workplace relations minister said. ''If you don't oppose domestic violence and support women, then you are part of the problem.''
The Law Reform Commission has urged the national government to consider adding domestic violence leave to its workplace standards.
Phil Cleary, who became an advocate for victims of domestic violence after his sister, Vicki, was killed in 1987, said she might still be alive if her employer had protected her. She was killed as she parked her car outside the kindergarten where she worked by a man who had already threatened her there.


Read more: http://www.upi.com/Top_News/World-News/2012/10/26/Domestic-violence-leave-grows-in-Australia/UPI-81061351283112/#ixzz2CJAjyhSa

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