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Angry Women, Scared Husbands. May 27, 2011. You may know that one in four women will become a victim of domestic violence, but did you know that ...

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The Anger Workbook for Women: How to Keep Your Anger from Undermining Your Self-Esteem, Your Emotional Balance, and Your Relationships (New Harbinger Self-Help Books on anger, by and large, have been written by men for men who express their anger in an outward and explosive way. But women usually express anger through a range of behaviors, from explosive outbursts to quiet seething rage. If you’re a woman struggling with anger, this workbook is designed to help you develop skills and strategies for expressing your anger in constructive ways.
No matter what your style of anger is, this workbook can help you identify what triggers your anger. Then, through a series of interactive, relational exercises, you’ll learn ways to cope with angry feelings.

• Discover the things that might contribute to your anger with engaging worksheets and assessments
  
• Explore the connection between anger and substance abuse, mood disorders, and domestic violence
  
• Integrate elements of narrative, art, and music therapy into a powerful set of anger management tools
Workbook) [Paperback]

 

 

Children suffer from PTSD as well

PTSD and domestic violence

Men suffer from PTSD due to domestic violence as well

What are the effects of PTSD?

Although not all individuals who have been traumatized develop PTSD, there can be significant physical consequences of being traumatized. For example, research indicates that people who have been exposed to an extreme stressor sometimes have a smaller hippocampus (a region of the brain that plays a role in memory) than people who have not been exposed to trauma. This is significant in understanding the effects of trauma in general and the impact of PTSD, specifically since the hippocampus is the part of the brain that is thought to have an important role in developing new memories about life events. Also, whether or not a traumatized person goes on to develop PTSD, they seem to be at risk for higher use of cigarettes, alcohol, and marijuana. Conversely, people whose PTSD is treated also tend to have better success at overcoming a substance-abuse problem.
Untreated PTSD can have devastating, far-reaching consequences for sufferers' functioning and relationships, their families, and for society. Symptoms in women with PTSD who are pregnant include having other emotional problems, poor health behaviors, and memory problems. Women who were sexually abused at earlier ages are more likely to develop complex PTSD and borderline personality disorder. Babies who are born to mothers who suffer from this illness during pregnancy are more likely to experience a change in at least one chemical in their body that makes it more likely (predisposes) the baby to develop PTSD later in life. Individuals who suffer from this illness are at risk of having more medical problems, as well as trouble reproducing. Emotionally, PTSD sufferers may struggle more to achieve as good an outcome from mental-health treatment as that of people with other emotional problems. In children and teens, PTSD can have significantly negative effects on their social and emotional development, as well as on their ability to learn.
Economically, PTSD can have significant consequences as well. As of 2005, more than 200,000 veterans were receiving disability compensation for this illness, for a cost of $4.3 billion. This represents an 80% increase in the number of military people receiving disability benefits for PTSD and an increase of 149% in the amount of disability benefits paid compared to those numbers five years earlier.

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Causes

Virtually any trauma, defined as an event that is life-threatening or that severely compromises the emotional well-being of an individual or causes intense fear, may cause PTSD. Such events often include either experiencing or witnessing a severe accident or physical injury, receiving a life-threatening medical diagnosis, being the victim of kidnapping or torture, exposure to war combat or to a natural disaster, exposure to other disaster (for example, plane crash) or terrorist attack, being the victim of rape, mugging, robbery, or assault, enduring physical, sexual, emotional, or other forms of abuse, as well as involvement in civil conflict. Although the diagnosis of PTSD currently requires that the sufferer has a history of experiencing a traumatic event as defined here, people may develop PTSD in reaction to events that may not qualify as traumatic but can be devastating life events like divorce or unemployment

What is posttraumatic stress disorder?

Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an emotional illness that that is classified as an anxiety disorder and usually develops as a result of a terribly frightening, life-threatening, or otherwise highly unsafe experience. PTSD sufferers re-experience the traumatic event or events in some way, tend to avoid places, people, or other things that remind them of the event (avoidance), and are exquisitely sensitive to normal life experiences (hyperarousal). Although this condition has likely existed since human beings have endured trauma, PTSD has only been recognized as a formal diagnosis since 1980. However, it was called by different names as early as the American Civil War, when combat veterans were referred to as suffering from "soldier's heart." In World War I, symptoms that were generally consistent with this syndrome were referred to as "combat fatigue." Soldiers who developed such symptoms in World War II were said to be suffering from "gross stress reaction," and many troops in Vietnam who had symptoms of what is now called PTSD were assessed as having "post-Vietnam syndrome." PTSD has also been called "battle fatigue" and "shell shock."Complex posttraumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) usually results from prolonged exposure to a traumatic event or series thereof and is characterized by long-lasting problems with many aspects of emotional and social functioning.Statistics regarding this illness indicate that approximately 7%-8% of people in the United States will likely develop PTSD in their lifetime, with the lifetime occurrence (prevalence) in combat veterans and rape victims ranging from 10% to as high as 30%. Somewhat higher rates of this disorder have been found to occur in African Americans, Hispanics, and Native Americans compared to Caucasians in the United States. Some of that difference is thought to be due to higher rates of dissociation soon before and after the traumatic event (peritraumatic), a tendency for individuals from minority ethnic groups to blame themselves, have less social support, and an increased perception of racism for those ethnic groups, as well as differences between how ethnic groups may express distress. In military populations, many of the differences have been found to be the result of increased exposure to combat at younger ages for minority groups. Other important facts about PTSD include the estimate of 5 million people who suffer from PTSD at any one time in the United States and the fact that women are twice as likely as men to develop PTSD.Almost half of individuals who use outpatient mental-health services have been found to suffer from PTSD. As evidenced by the occurrence of stress in many individuals in the United States in the days following the 2001 terrorist attacks, not being physically present at a traumatic event does not guarantee that one cannot suffer from traumatic stress that can lead to the development of PTSD.PTSD statistics in children and teens reveal that up to more than 40% have endured at least one traumatic event, resulting in the development of PTSD in up to 15% of girls and 6% of boys. On average, 3%-6% of high school students in the United States and as many as 30%-60% of children who have survived specific disasters have PTSD. Up to 100% of children who have seen a parent killed or endured sexual assault or abuse tend to develop PTSD, and more than one-third of youths who are exposed to community violence (for example, a shooting, stabbing, or other assault) will suffer from the disorder.

What are PTSD symptoms and signs?

The following three groups of symptom criteria are required to assign the diagnosis of PTSD:

• Recurrent re-experiencing of the trauma (for example, troublesome memories, flashbacks that are usually caused by reminders of the traumatic events, recurring nightmares about the trauma and/or dissociative reliving of the trauma)
  
  
• Avoidance to the point of having a phobia of places, people, and experiences that remind the sufferer of the trauma or a general numbing of emotional responsiveness
  
  
• Chronic physical signs of hyperarousal, including sleep problems, trouble concentrating, irritability, anger, poor concentration, blackouts or difficulty remembering things, increased tendency and reaction to being startled, and hypervigilance (excessive watchfulness) to threat

The emotional numbing of PTSD may present as a lack of interest in activities that used to be enjoyed (anhedonia), emotional deadness, distancing oneself from people, and/or a sense of a foreshortened future (for example, not being able to think about the future or make future plans, not believing one will live much longer). At least one re-experiencing symptom, three avoidance/numbing symptoms, and two hyperarousal symptoms must be present for at least one month and must cause significant distress or functional impairment in order for the diagnosis of PTSD to be assigned. PTSD is considered of chronic duration if it persists for three months or more.
A similar disorder in terms of symptom repertoire is acute stress disorder. The major differences between the two disorders are that acute stress disorder symptoms persist from two days to four weeks, and a fewer number of traumatic symptoms are required to make the diagnosis as compared to PTSD.
In children, re-experiencing the trauma may occur through repeated play that has trauma-related themes instead of or in addition to memories, and distressing dreams may have more general content rather than of the traumatic event itself. As in adults, at least one re-experiencing symptom, three avoidance/numbing symptoms, and two hyperarousal symptoms must be present for at least one month and must cause significant distress or functional impairment in order for the diagnosis of PTSD to be assigned. When symptoms have been present for less than one month, a diagnosis of acute stress disorder (ASD) can be made.
Symptoms of PTSD that tend to be associated with C-PTSD include problems regulating feelings, which can result in suicidal thoughts, explosive anger, or passive aggressive behaviors; a tendency to forget the trauma or feel detached from one's life (dissociation) or body (depersonalization); persistent feelings of helplessness, shame, guilt, or being completely different from others; feeling the perpetrator of trauma is all-powerful and preoccupation with either revenge against or allegiance with the perpetrator; and severe change in those things that give the sufferer meaning, like a loss of spiritual faith or an ongoing sense of helplessness, hopelessness, or despair.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: The Victim's Guide to Healing & Recovery [Paperback]

A basic introduction to PTSD. Written for victims, it is a helpful source for understanding the responses a psychologically healthy person is likely to undergo after experiencing an acute tramatic episode. --Journal of Tramatic Stress

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FatWomanGoesRaw has replied to your comment on Story of Hope and Courage To reply back click here. To see all comments on this video click here. Thank YOU for everything that you are doing. It take a lot of courage to turn around and be able to face what others are going through. It shows alot of love that you are aspiring to help others. I'll definitely check it out :) xoxo

The Warrior is a child, by Twila Paris. I'm sure people with Borderline Personality disorder feel this way, I hope this song gives them courage and strength to fight the battles worth fighting for.

Being knowledgeable to what is in the mind of someone with borderline personality disorder can help you understand.

Understand Borderline Personality Disorder, especially if you know or think you know someone with BPD.

Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder

There are nine specific diagnostic criteria (symptoms) for borderline personality disorder defined in the
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition, Text Revision (referred to as DSM-IV-TR, or just DSM-IV) published in 2000 by the American Psychiatric Association.¹ In order to be diagnosed with borderline disorder, you must have five of the nine criteria.
It is now common to list the symptoms of the disorder in four groups or dimensions:
1. Excessive, unstable and poorly regulated emotional responses.
The most commonly affected emotions are anger, anxiety and depression. Of the nine DSM-IV criteria for borderline disorder, three fall into this group:

• Affective (emotional) instability including intense, episodic emotional anguish, irritability, and anxiety/ panic attacks
• Anger that is inappropriate, intense and difficult to control, and
• Chronic feelings of emptiness

In addition, if you suffer from borderline disorder, you may also experience

• Emotional over reactivity (“emotional storms”)
• Emotional responses that are occasionally under reactive, and
• Chronic boredom

2. Impulsive behaviors that are harmful to you or to others.
Two of the DSM-IV criteria for borderline disorder are in this group:

• Self-damaging acts such as excessive spending, unsafe and inappropriate sexual conduct, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating, and
• Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats, or self-injurious behavior

Also, you may engage in other impulsive behaviors such as actions that are harmful and destructive to yourself, others or to property.
3. You may have an inaccurate view of yourself and others, and experience a high level of suspiciousness and other misperceptions.
Two of the DSM-IV criteria for borderline disorder are included in this group:

• A markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of your self (your identity), and
• Paranoid ideation or severe dissociative episodes (transient and stress related)

In addition, you may consistently experience

• Expectations of negative and harmful attitudes and behaviors from most people
• Impaired social reasoning under stress
• Impaired memory under stress

4. Finally, you may experience tumultuous and very unstable relationships.
The final two DSM-IV criteria fall in this group:

• You may engage in frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, and
• Your relationships may be very intense, unstable, and alternate between the extremes of over idealizing and undervaluing people who are important to you

You may also recognize that you have overly dependent and clinging behavior in important relationships.

For more information on BPD go to Borderline Personality disorder Demystified by Robert O Friedel MN at www.bpddemystified.com/what-is-bpd/symptoms

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder:

How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship (Google eBook)

Shari Y. Manning

382 Reviewshttp://books.google.com/books/about/Loving_Someone_with_Borderline_Personali.html?id=jIlydxX9Pv8C

Guilford Press, Aug 15, 2011 - 240 pages

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny—but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you're struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions—and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.

Be a survivor from domestic violence

Surviving Domestic Violence:

Voices of Women Who Broke Free

Elaine Weiss

9 Reviewshttp://books.google.com/books/about/Surviving_Domestic_Violence.html?id=eSPZzKibNnYC

Volcano Press, Feb 1, 2004 - 214 pages

This is not a reference text about domestic violence. It is not an instructional manual on how to escape from a batterer. Plenty of these exist. It is a travel guide to a country no one visits willingly, the collective tales of past travelers making the landscape less threatening, less alien. I hope the many voices in this book will convince you that these stories belong to all of us. Domestic abuse doesn't just happen "out there" somewhereit happens in our town, in our neighborhood, on our street. It happens to people we see at the supermarket, the movie theater, the ballet, the bowling alley, and the PTA board meeting. It happens to our friends, our coworkers, and our family members. Women who have experienced domestic abuse look just like everyone else. They look just like me. Abused women look just like Judy North, a first-grade teacher from Nebraska who remained with her abusive husband for ten years, until the night she finally stood up to him...and woke up in the emergency room. Abused women look just like Whitney Benson, a Mormon college student from southern Utah. She worries about the scars on her face from her boyfriend's class ring; I worry about the scars on her soul from his carefully crafted campaign of criticism, intimidation, and punishing rape. And abused women look just like Andrea Hartley, a pediatrician in her late forties who considers herself extremely fortunate. Although the man she married when she was thirty proved to be extremely violent, the emotional support of her family, friends, and medical colleagues enabled her to leave him only four months later. They come from all walks of life. Some are well educated; others barely finished high school. Some comefrom wealthy families; others come from poor ones. Some witnessed terrifying family violence as children; others never heard an angry word. Some were raised by warm, supportive families; others by cold, distant families. Some married young; others married late. They worship in churches, in synagogues, or not at all. They come from big cities, small towns, farming communities, and suburbs. What these women have in common is that each was in an intimate relationship with a man who abused her. Some were abused physically. Some were abused sexually. All were abused psychologically...the most devastating type of abuse, leaving the deepest wounds. This is not a book about guns, knives, emergency rooms, or police reports. Many stories focus instead on the subtle campaign of abuse, wearying and corrosive, which trapped their teller in a web of daily threat. Yet despite the humiliation, fear, and isolation, each woman managed to escape from her abuser. Theirs are stories, not of frailty, but of clarity, resourcefulness, and strength.

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Amazing Grace is one of my all time favorite songs.  I started singing it to my children when they were born, and to this day at age 7 & 9 they still want Amazing Grace sang at bedtime.

"Grace grants us first the power to receive love, and then the power to give it." Max Lucado

 

 

 

• OVERVIEW
• DETAILS

Jesus didn’t die to give you frustration and aggravation. He died so you could have unspeakable joy and mind-surpassing peace! How do you get joy and peace? They’re found in the gift of grace – divine blessing, favor and strength from God that covers all areas of our lives.

In this DVD Joyce explains the many aspects of grace, including…

• What prevents us from receiving God’s grace
• How to give grace to those around us
• Why forgiveness is a must for enjoying grace

You can’t give away what you don’t have. Once you accept God’s grace, you then have the privilege of giving grace out to others. Discover today how to tap into the abundance of grace.

Another women of courage with a story of hope. Let yourself be another.

Twila Paris is the most amazing inspiring singer songwriters you will find.  Her songs always bring me joy and hope when my heart is heavy.

I discussed Forgiveness on my blog yesterday, because forgiveness is so important to your healing, and letting go of the past for a healthy future.
Today I discussed Hope, because Hope is important to hang onto whether you are still in your abusive relationship, or if you're out of your own personal hell on earth, you need to hang onto hope for your future and your childrens.  Having hope is part of recovery as is forgivness.  I will post inspiring books and videos daily for support, learning, a tear or two, hope, inspiration, healing, and mental and physical well being.  If you have something you would like to share please email me or post to my blog or twitter.  I want to hear your stories, as my story is heartbreaking and inspiring so is yours.

Thanks

Jill

I hope this makes you smile and gives you a little hope

A Way of Hope

Leslie Barner

0 Reviewshttp://books.google.com/books/about/A_Way_of_Hope.html?id=ETpsPQAACAAJ

FamilyLife, Jun 30, 2004 - 48 pages

Each year, millions of women are abused in the one place they thought they would be safe ... their homes. This resource was created with two purposes:
- Give abused women hope that their lives can change.
- Provide some concrete suggestions on how to move toward recovery.
It is our prayer that this book will be for you ... a way of hope as you:
- Recognize the need for change.
- Understand that healthy relationships have boundaries.
- Seek outside help and guidance.
- Develop a safety plan.
- Move toward personal recovery.
- Encourage your husband to get help.
- Move toward reconciliation.

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I hope you dance to freedom from Domestic Violence.

Prayers for Healing

A Book on Stopping the Pain of Abuse by Finding Peace, Healing, Hope and Comfort through Prayer and the Word of God

Expect to Be Healed, Expect Your Prayers Answered, Expect to Live Again!

Prayers for Healing Journey

I never thought I’d survive. My life was a mess, I had no hope, no dreams and no possible future. My husband was beyond violent and I couldn’t tell anyone. My life seemed hopeless.

Life in Shambles

Seeing my life in such shambles, I turned to God. I felt him wiping my tears and holding me close. For the first time in my life, I someone knew my pain and was there for me.

Daily I would go hide in my closet and prayed. I knew God was starting to answer my cries. I felt Him, His Presence, and heard Him saying “I am here, I will help you. You are safe.”

For the first time in my life I was hopeful. I saw God’s hand protecting me from a lot of the violence. I saw Him send confusion into my husbands’ mind, I saw Him remove him from the house at other times. God was there protecting me.

God Came to My Rescue

Those prayers, tears and hope in God saved my life – He came to my rescue. I know now God will always protect me, hear me when I call, and rescue me. He is my God and I am His child. You can know that too for yourself.

Hurting? This Book Can Help

If you are experiencing hopelessness from the pain of abuse, don’t wait, this book will bring you comfort, God’s comfort through the prayers that healed me.

You may feel alone, but you are not, God is right here with you. He is there to help you through your pain. He will guide you and direct you.

If you are ready to heal from the abuse, please get the book. It’s the answer.

The Silence of Domestic Violence: The Impact of DV on children

The Silence of Domestic Violence: The Impact of DV on children: While the statistics surrounding reported cases of Domestic Violence are frightening enough,   perhaps even more concerning is that 90% of ...

Domestic Violence: Freedom Gives Hope, Hope Gives Freedom : Forgivness is letting go of the past, so you can m...

Domestic Violence: Freedom Gives Hope, Hope Gives Freedom : Forgivness is letting go of the past, so you can m...: Forgivness is letting go of the past, so you can move into the future and learn to love and trust again. Forgivness is the key to your pe...

Domestic Violence: Freedom Gives Hope, Hope Gives Freedom : Pumpkin Smoothie141 CommentsPrint Recipe P...

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Pumpkin Smoothie

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Leesten. And heer me. You must make these tonight, tomorrow, and next week. As simple and throw-together as they are, I promise they’ll be one of the most delectable things you’ve ever put in your mouth.

They’re pumpkin smoothies. And they’ll rock your world.
I had my doubts myself before I ever made a pumpkin smoothie for the first time. I imagined a watery, semi-creamy concoction that would likely taste like three-week old pumpkin pie juice. (Huh? Gross.) Instead, it turned out to be one of the creamiest, most delicious treats I’d ever tasted—almost like a pumpkin milkshake, but not nearly as sinful.
Using pumpkin pie filling, frozen solid before blending, gives the smoothie a lovely built-in sweetness and flavor, and the vanilla yogurt takes the flavor over the top. If you’d like to have a little more control over the sugar in your smoothie, though, you can sub pumpkin puree (make your own; it’s a cinch!) and plain yogurt, then add in whatever sweetener (sugar, honey, agave nectar, orange juice, etc) you’d like.
But boy, oh boy. Try it this way first.
You’ve gotta trust me on this one.

Forgivness is letting go of the past, so you can move into the future and learn to love and trust again. Forgivness is the key to your personal freedom and hope for a new life.

Make the choice to Forgive and have a healthier mental and physical state.

Forgive for Good

(Google eBook)

Frederic Luskin

78 Reviewshttp://books.google.com/books/about/Forgive_for_Good.html?id=XF6v7HbX_G8C

HarperCollins, Jan 21, 2003 - 240 pages

Based on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland’s civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment.

It's not you, it is your abuser trying to make it look like it is, but it's him or her with the problem.

The video from Patricia Evans on The verbally abusive Man, Can he change

Thriving on the Bipolar Roller Coaster:

How to Suceed with Bipolar Disorder (Google eBook)

Phyllis Elliott Lcsw-R

0 Reviewshttp://books.google.com/books/about/Thriving_on_the_Bipolar_Roller_Coaster.html?id=Y94Vb8EpakMC

iUniverse, Jul 11, 2007 - 88 pages

What does a person do when life suddenly changes-and not for the better? Phyllis Elliott didn't expect racing thoughts, lack of concentration, and sleep deprivation followed by extreme sluggishness. At forty-four, she planned to enter graduate school for social work when her life was upended by a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. With the everyday demands of life, family, and career, Elliott felt overwhelmed. One day she was a wife, mother, and student, and the next, a patient. Things that used to be effortless now took more energy than she could summon. In "Thriving on the Bipolar Roller Coaster," Elliott courageously shares her journey from patient back to her former roles as she discusses: Medication and coping skills
Education and advocacy
Recovery and hope
Special tools for the families of children and teens The knowledge that Elliott gained allowed her to achieve her goals and to live a full life once again. For patients, their loved ones, and the professionals treating them, "Thriving on the Bipolar Roller Coaster" is an essential guide to finding hope, managing symptoms, and thriving in the midst of bipolar challenges.