The Emotionally Destructive Relationship:

Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It

Leslie Vernick

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Harvest House Publishers, Aug 15, 2007 - Religion - 256 pages

Leslie Vernick, counselor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including
many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With
godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and
addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools. Readers will understand how to:
Reveal behaviors that are meant to control, punish, and hurt
Confront and speak truth when the timing is right
Determine when to keep trying, when to get out
Get safe and stay safe
Build an identity in Christ
This practical and thorough resource will help countless individuals, families, and churches view abuse from God's
perspective and understand how vital it is for victims to embrace His freedom from the physical, emotional, spiritual, and generational effects
of emotionally destructive relationships.

No Visible Wounds:

Identifying Nonphysical Abuse of Women by Their Men

Mary Susan Miller

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Contemporary Books, 1995 - Self-Help - 307 pages

Domestic violence against women is not limited to physical assaults. In No Visible Wounds, veteran counselor Mary Susan Miller breaks the silence that surrounds this devastating form of abuse, identifies the many types of nonphysical battering, and explores why this outrageous treatment of women continues unabated in our society

Whose Face Is in the Mirror?:

The Story of One Woman's Journey from the Nightmare of Domestic Abuse to True Healing

Dianne Schwartz

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Hay House, Mar 1, 2000 - Biography & Autobiography - 253 pages

In this moving and inspirational work, Schwartz shares the trauma involved in living with an abuser, and takes the reader with her during the gradual process that allowed her to escape from the nightmare and move toward true healing. Along the way, she reveals how to recognize the warning signs of domestic violence, listen to your inner spirit, rid yourself of false beliefs and love yourself enough to protect your precious soul. Throughout this book, Schwartz offers valuable self-help techniques to enable battered women to discover their self-worth and regain their lives. Her honesty in detailing her thought processes provides enormous insight into the psyche of a victim of abuse, while her ultimate recovery offers hope to others trapped within the cycle of domestic violence.

Surviving Domestic Violence:

Voices of Women Who Broke Free

Elaine Weiss

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Volcano Press, Feb 1, 2004 - Self-Help - 214 pages

This is not a reference text about domestic violence. It is not an instructional manual on how to escape from a batterer. Plenty of these exist. It is a travel guide to a country no one visits willingly, the collective tales of past travelers making the landscape less threatening, less alien. I hope the many voices in this book will convince you that these stories belong to all of us. Domestic abuse doesn't just happen "out there" somewhereit happens in our town, in our neighborhood, on our street. It happens to people we see at the supermarket, the movie theater, the ballet, the bowling alley, and the PTA board meeting. It happens to our friends, our coworkers, and our family members. Women who have experienced domestic abuse look just like everyone else. They look just like me. Abused women look just like Judy North, a first-grade teacher from Nebraska who remained with her abusive husband for ten years, until the night she finally stood up to him...and woke up in the emergency room. Abused women look just like Whitney Benson, a Mormon college student from southern Utah. She worries about the scars on her face from her boyfriend's class ring; I worry about the scars on her soul from his carefully crafted campaign of criticism, intimidation, and punishing rape. And abused women look just like Andrea Hartley, a pediatrician in her late forties who considers herself extremely fortunate. Although the man she married when she was thirty proved to be extremely violent, the emotional support of her family, friends, and medical colleagues enabled her to leave him only four months later. They come from all walks of life. Some are well educated; others barely finished high school. Some comefrom wealthy families; others come from poor ones. Some witnessed terrifying family violence as children; others never heard an angry word. Some were raised by warm, supportive families; others by cold, distant families. Some married young; others married late. They worship in churches, in synagogues, or not at all. They come from big cities, small towns, farming communities, and suburbs. What these women have in common is that each was in an intimate relationship with a man who abused her. Some were abused physically. Some were abused sexually. All were abused psychologically...the most devastating type of abuse, leaving the deepest wounds. This is not a book about guns, knives, emergency rooms, or police reports. Many stories focus instead on the subtle campaign of abuse, wearying and corrosive, which trapped their teller in a web of daily threat. Yet despite the humiliation, fear, and isolation, each woman managed to escape from her abuser. Theirs are stories, not of frailty, but of clarity, resourcefulness, and strength.

Behind Closed Doors:

Violence in the American Family

Murray Murray Arnold Straus, Richard J. Gelles, Suzanne K. Steinmetz

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Transaction Publishers, 1980 - Family & Relationships - 301 pages

Behind Closed Doors is grounded in the unprecedented national survey of the extent, patterns, and causes of violence in the American family. Based on a study of over 2,000 families, the authors provide landmark insights into this phenomenon of violence and what causes Americans to inflict it on their family members. The authors explore the relationship between spousal abuse and child abuse as well as abuse between siblings, violence by children against their parents, and the causes and effects of verbal abuse. Taken together, their analysis provides a vivid picture of how violence is woven into the fabric of family life and why the hallmark of family life is both love and violence. This is a comprehensive, highly readable account of interest to both the professional and the layperson on an important topic, which concerns the social well-being of us all

Family violence in cross-cultural perspective

David Levinson

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Sage Publications, 1989 - Family & Relationships - 146 pages

How prevalent is family violence outside the United States? Can policies and programs designed to prevent family violence in one culture be adapted to other cultures? Does a relationship exist between general violence and family violence in a given society? These are but a few of the questions addressed in this compelling, well-written volume. The author uses ethnographic data culled from 90 different societies to develop a global picture of the incidence, causes, and correlates of family violence. Through the use of both quantitative analysis and ethnographic description, Levinson tests the explanation/power of various current theories against worldwide family violence data. For anyone working in the area of family violence, this volume is a must. "I found the work to be exceptional. . . . I surely will want to adopt it for my graduate course in the Sociology of Deviance." --Bob Regoli, University of Colorado at Boulder "The book would be extremely useful. I know of no comparative work of this type now available. . . . The author writes well and is an accomplished scholar." --Mary Riege Laner, Arizona State University "This book can provide much illumination on world-wide family violence. The accounts given by ethnographers add life to the statistics given. . . . Anyone interested in broadening his or her knowledge of family violence would do well with this book." --Family Violence Bulletin "[Levinson] has made extensive use of the collection of cultural materials from the Human Relations Area files, to examine the question of how common family violence is in different societies, and what factors tend to make such violence more or less common in those societies. . . . He has reached a number of very important conclusions, [which] provide a solid basis for further research. . . . Useful in developing an understanding an of the way in which family violence occurs and may be helpful in programs to prevent the occurrence of such violence." --New Jersey Family Lawyer "Provides thought-provoking material about family violence, which will be of interest to many audiences. . . . This comparative study should help fill a critical gap." --Journal of Marriage and the Family "The author gives examples of societies where family violence is virtually unknown to disprove the view that it is somehow natural and inevitable. Because of this wider perspective on a common problem, this book is worthwhile reading for anyone dealing professionally with couples of families where violence is likely to occur." --Sexual and Marital Therapy "An important addition to the anthropological study of deviance; important to students interested in deviant behavior, family, and gender issues, and the social construction of violence." --NEXUS: The Canadian Journal of Anthropology "Those interested in examining family violence from a broader, cross-cultural perspective that will suggest hypotheses for understanding and preventing family violence at the societal level in our own culture will find Family Violence in Cross-Cultural Perspective to be most interesting reading." --Review and Expositor, Inc.