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Hell on earth is not a place but a state of mind!
Have you lived in fear, cowered when a hand is raised, felt empty and alone, or felt that your life has been stolen from you because anxiety and depression is nipping at your heals? Is your laughter gone? Has your spirit been broken, and the word hope is no longer in your vocabulary? I was once in that dark place of no return. My mind, body, heart and soul were broken into a million pieces, and the fear running through my veins were earth shattering. My brain was numb to all rational thinking and thoughts of suicide were like taking a common every day breath. The only thing that saved me was a moment of clarity to realize that I couldn't leave my young children behind with this person I was married to. My isolation and captivity was complete. I am still in counseling for PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) 3 years later, but I am finding out who I really am for the first time in my life. I am loving, smart, funny, and most of all I have learned that I am a good wife and a good mother after 21 years of hearing I wasn't good enough for anything. My life has been forever changed, and life is good. Challenges still arise, but with my new husband and my family always there for me with unconditional love and support I am
making it one day at a time.
My dream is that one day divorce courts will address mental, verbal and psychological (emotional) abuse as a prosecutable offense. The scars run deep and wide with all forms of abuse, just because you can't see them, doesn't mean they don't exist.Research is starting to show that mental abuse is longer lasting to its victims than physical abuse. I can now say I am a survivor!
Hope is something I never had, until my escape became a reality not a dream. Hope is now a wonderful word in my vocabulary, and fear is a thing of the past. My number one goal is to finish school with a PHD degree in Pyschology so that I can help women and men, who are still in that dark place of no return and to keep my children safe and showing them that they are loved. I want to show victims that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and a freedom of the soul they never thought possible. Abused women and men need to know that there is life after they go through hell on earth, a traumatic experience, that will forever change who they are and who they can be.

Thursday, November 15, 2012

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE NEWS AROUND THE WORLD: UNITED STATES, BUT AN IRAQUI WOMEN

Police: Shaima Alawadi's death was domestic violence not hate crime, arrest husband

Reuters
The husband of Shaima Alawadi, Kassim Alhimidi, holds a picture of his slain wife in April 2012.
By Kari Huus, NBC News
Police have arrested the husband of an Iraqi woman beaten to death in her home eight months ago for what initially looked like a racially motivated hate crime, U-T San Diego reported, citing jail records in El Cajon, Calif., in San Diego County.
Kassim Alhimidi, 48, was booked into jail Thursday evening on one count of first-degree murder. He is being held without bail.

"After months of hard work, we determined that this homicide was a result of domestic violence," El Cajon Police Chief Jim Redman said Friday, NBCSanDiego.com reported.
 
Shaima Alawadi, 32, was found bloody and unconscious with multiple skull fractures in her family's home on March 21. She died in the hospital three days later.
The couple’s 17-year-old daughter told police she was in her bedroom when the attack took place. She found her mother unconscious and called 9-1-1.
Family members said they had found a note near Alawadi's body telling the family to go back where they came from. They said they had found a similar note at their home weeks earlier, but they didn't keep it or report it.
Police said at the time they were investigating the possibility of a hate crime.
Alawadi's horrific death sparked fear and anger among immigrants who believed the crime targeted her because she was Muslim or because of her country of origin.
Thousands of supporters wearing the traditional Muslim hijab headscarf signed on to a Facebook page called "One Million Hijabs For Shaima Alawadi."
Later court documents emerged suggesting family tensions, and showing that Alawadi was preparing to divorce her husband and move with her children to be with relatives in Texas.
Affidavit: Iraqi beating victim in California had friction with daughter, husband
After Alawadi's death, Alhimidi traveled to Iraq for her burial and returned two weeks later.
Redman told reporters that investigators did not have any reason to keep Alhimidi in the country at the time, NBCSanDiego.com reported.
"He came back, and we decided he was a person of interest after he came back," Redman said without giving specifics.
The couple's minor children have been taken into protective custody
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