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Hell on earth is not a place but a state of mind!
Have you lived in fear, cowered when a hand is raised, felt empty and alone, or felt that your life has been stolen from you because anxiety and depression is nipping at your heals? Is your laughter gone? Has your spirit been broken, and the word hope is no longer in your vocabulary? I was once in that dark place of no return. My mind, body, heart and soul were broken into a million pieces, and the fear running through my veins were earth shattering. My brain was numb to all rational thinking and thoughts of suicide were like taking a common every day breath. The only thing that saved me was a moment of clarity to realize that I couldn't leave my young children behind with this person I was married to. My isolation and captivity was complete. I am still in counseling for PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) 3 years later, but I am finding out who I really am for the first time in my life. I am loving, smart, funny, and most of all I have learned that I am a good wife and a good mother after 21 years of hearing I wasn't good enough for anything. My life has been forever changed, and life is good. Challenges still arise, but with my new husband and my family always there for me with unconditional love and support I am
making it one day at a time.
My dream is that one day divorce courts will address mental, verbal and psychological (emotional) abuse as a prosecutable offense. The scars run deep and wide with all forms of abuse, just because you can't see them, doesn't mean they don't exist.Research is starting to show that mental abuse is longer lasting to its victims than physical abuse. I can now say I am a survivor!
Hope is something I never had, until my escape became a reality not a dream. Hope is now a wonderful word in my vocabulary, and fear is a thing of the past. My number one goal is to finish school with a PHD degree in Pyschology so that I can help women and men, who are still in that dark place of no return and to keep my children safe and showing them that they are loved. I want to show victims that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and a freedom of the soul they never thought possible. Abused women and men need to know that there is life after they go through hell on earth, a traumatic experience, that will forever change who they are and who they can be.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Should I Stay or Should I Go?


Are you tired of that aching feeling in your heart? Do you feel like you’re having to work every day to earn your partner’s love? Has your partner cheated on you? This book guides women in putting their finger on exactly what has gone wrong in their relationships, and knowing what decisive action to take now.
Find out whether your relationship can be repaired, and how to fix it. And if it’s beyond repair – we’ll tell you how to know when it’s time to end it – we will help you move through your disappointment and anger to build a new life that is vibrant and satisfying, where you are in charge of what happens.
Here’s what we cover:
    1. How to tell the root cause of why your partner isn’t giving you the love you deserve. Is it immaturity? Fear of commitment? Addiction? Mental health problems? Abusiveness? You’ll learn how to test for each of these, and what it means if the answer is yes.
    2. How to get your partner to listen to you and understand that he has to work on himself and make changes.
    3. How to point him toward the right kind of help – and how to find out if he’s serious about growing up and changing or not.
    4. How to get yourself stronger and happier, so that you can face up to the hard challenge of ending your relationship if it turns out you need to. And if your partner does manage to grow in the ways you need him to, you’ll still benefit from learning how to keep yourself on solid ground emotionally, so that you don’t rise and fall with the ups and downs of your relationship.
    5. If you have to move on, you’ll learn how to choose a partner next time who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, won’t cheat on you, and will make you a priority.
This is the book women have been waiting for. It offers information, insights, and a clear plan of action.
Lundy Bancroft, the country’s best-known author on abusive relationships, teams up with women’s advocate and workshop leader JAC Patrissi to bring you this hopeful and empowering guidebook.

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