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Hell on earth is not a place but a state of mind!
Have you lived in fear, cowered when a hand is raised, felt empty and alone, or felt that your life has been stolen from you because anxiety and depression is nipping at your heals? Is your laughter gone? Has your spirit been broken, and the word hope is no longer in your vocabulary? I was once in that dark place of no return. My mind, body, heart and soul were broken into a million pieces, and the fear running through my veins were earth shattering. My brain was numb to all rational thinking and thoughts of suicide were like taking a common every day breath. The only thing that saved me was a moment of clarity to realize that I couldn't leave my young children behind with this person I was married to. My isolation and captivity was complete. I am still in counseling for PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) 3 years later, but I am finding out who I really am for the first time in my life. I am loving, smart, funny, and most of all I have learned that I am a good wife and a good mother after 21 years of hearing I wasn't good enough for anything. My life has been forever changed, and life is good. Challenges still arise, but with my new husband and my family always there for me with unconditional love and support I am
making it one day at a time.
My dream is that one day divorce courts will address mental, verbal and psychological (emotional) abuse as a prosecutable offense. The scars run deep and wide with all forms of abuse, just because you can't see them, doesn't mean they don't exist.Research is starting to show that mental abuse is longer lasting to its victims than physical abuse. I can now say I am a survivor!
Hope is something I never had, until my escape became a reality not a dream. Hope is now a wonderful word in my vocabulary, and fear is a thing of the past. My number one goal is to finish school with a PHD degree in Pyschology so that I can help women and men, who are still in that dark place of no return and to keep my children safe and showing them that they are loved. I want to show victims that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and a freedom of the soul they never thought possible. Abused women and men need to know that there is life after they go through hell on earth, a traumatic experience, that will forever change who they are and who they can be.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

What Causes a Man to Hate Women?

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A man's hatred for women can turn to violence.


Hatred can range from a general attitude to actual violence. Men who hate women are usually conditioned by their culture, family or actions perpetrated against them by a woman specifically or women in general. Hatred of women is a complex psychological condition that can originate from a variety of psychological causes but can often be treated by a trained therapist.
  

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  1. Emotional Roots of Hatred of Women

    • According to Dr. Stephen Diamond, clinical and forensic psychologist and the author of "Anger, Madness, and the Daimonic: The Psychological Genesis of Violence, Evil, and Creativity," frustration and loneliness can beget rage and violence. Because a man is born alone, walks through life as an individual and dies alone, he often endeavors to relieve his sense of loneliness by reaching out to others. When men can't get their need for companionship, comfort, love and sex met by others, the resulting frustration can turn to bitterness, resentment and, ultimately, hate and revulsion. When a man's attempts are met with rejection or abandonment, whether intentional or not, he may end up feeling powerless and projecting his anger at women in general.

    Cultural Roots of Hatred of Women

    • Some cultures consider women to be of less value than men and some even believe women to be evil. In some tribes, men believe their wives' bodies are poisonous and can contaminate them as they sleep. In other cultures, women are thought to be a particular type of destructive evil created by the Devil himself. Other societies simply view women as lower-class citizens, useful for little more than sexual pleasure and servitude. These attitudes are perpetuated from generation to generation, resulting in a pervasive hatred and disdain for all females.
      Some religions and folklore may be responsible for a man hating women. Many religious texts attribute the ills of man to a woman or women in general. Fairy tales often tell of female witches or evil stepmothers but rarely include sins committed by warlocks or evil stepfathers.
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    • Men who have been abused -- sexually, physically or emotionally -- may also develop an aversion toward women that can turn to hate. Incest or sexual abuse in childhood by a woman can traumatize a boy and confuse his sexual identity. He may loathe women and seek to humiliate them or turn to other men for comfort and love. In his book, "Perversion: The Erotic Form of Hatred," Dr. Robert J. Stoller posits that childhood trauma can result in unusual sexual preferences, such as sadism.

    Other Causes of Hatred of Women

    • Because the human psyche is intricate and unique, myriad causes could combine to produce a hatred of women. A man could experience humiliation from a female authority figure or shame from female schoolmates, or feel threatened by women whom he feels seek to overtake what he perceives as his role in society.



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