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Hell on earth is not a place but a state of mind!
Have you lived in fear, cowered when a hand is raised, felt empty and alone, or felt that your life has been stolen from you because anxiety and depression is nipping at your heals? Is your laughter gone? Has your spirit been broken, and the word hope is no longer in your vocabulary? I was once in that dark place of no return. My mind, body, heart and soul were broken into a million pieces, and the fear running through my veins were earth shattering. My brain was numb to all rational thinking and thoughts of suicide were like taking a common every day breath. The only thing that saved me was a moment of clarity to realize that I couldn't leave my young children behind with this person I was married to. My isolation and captivity was complete. I am still in counseling for PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) 3 years later, but I am finding out who I really am for the first time in my life. I am loving, smart, funny, and most of all I have learned that I am a good wife and a good mother after 21 years of hearing I wasn't good enough for anything. My life has been forever changed, and life is good. Challenges still arise, but with my new husband and my family always there for me with unconditional love and support I am
making it one day at a time.
My dream is that one day divorce courts will address mental, verbal and psychological (emotional) abuse as a prosecutable offense. The scars run deep and wide with all forms of abuse, just because you can't see them, doesn't mean they don't exist.Research is starting to show that mental abuse is longer lasting to its victims than physical abuse. I can now say I am a survivor!
Hope is something I never had, until my escape became a reality not a dream. Hope is now a wonderful word in my vocabulary, and fear is a thing of the past. My number one goal is to finish school with a PHD degree in Pyschology so that I can help women and men, who are still in that dark place of no return and to keep my children safe and showing them that they are loved. I want to show victims that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and a freedom of the soul they never thought possible. Abused women and men need to know that there is life after they go through hell on earth, a traumatic experience, that will forever change who they are and who they can be.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

SOME CHRISTMAS QUOTES FOR INSPIRATION TO US ALL:


Agnes M. Pharo: What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace.

Dale Evans Rogers:Christmas, my child, is love in action. Every time we love, every time we give, it's Christmas.

Mother Teresa: It is Christmas every time you let God love others through you... yes, it is Christmas every time you smile at your brother and offer him your hand.

Ruth Carter Stapleton: Christmas is most truly Christmas when we celebrate it by giving the light of love to those who need it most.

W. C. Jones: The joy of brightening other lives, bearing each others' burdens, easing other's loads and supplanting empty hearts and lives with generous gifts becomes for us the magic of Christmas.

Bob Hope: My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others.
Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that?

Arab Proverb: If you have much, give of your wealth; if you have little, give of your heart.

Thomas A. Edison: Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.

Edward Everett Hale: To look forward and not back, to look out and not in, and to lend a hand.

Emily Matthews: From home to home, and heart to heart, from one place to another
The warmth and joy of Christmas, brings us closer to each other.

Martin Luther: Good news from heaven the angels bring,
Glad tidings to the earth they sing:
To us this day a child is given,
To crown us with the joy of heaven


 
 

 
 
 
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I think this will be a great treat to make with the kids, and I plan on trying it this year myself.
 
 
 
 
 
Wilma's Holiday Tree
 
Prep Time: 10 minutue
  • Cook Time: 5 min excluding decoration
  • Total Time: about 30 min
Ingredients:

¼ cup Butter or Margine [ Not Spread]
1 pkg 10 1/2oz Fruity or Cocoa Peebles Cereal
1 pkg [11oz] Minature Marshmallow [6 Cups]
1 Container [16oz] Ready To Spread Vanilla Frosting

Directions:
Spray 13x9 inch pan with cooking spray
Melt butter over low heat in large saucepan. Add marshmallow stirring until completed melted.
Add cereal mix to coat well
Press firmly and evenely into prepared pan. Cool 1 hour in cool dry place.
Using cookie cutter or star cutout carefully cut 2 of each size for a total of ten star
Spread 1/2 of frosting on tray to resemble snow.Using remaing frosting to attach star stacking largest to the smallest and rotating point of stars to make a tree
Decorate as desired. making 1 tree




 
  Another holiday favorite in my family

Super-Easy Rocky Road Fudge
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Prep Time: 10 mins
Cooking Time: 2 mins
Servings: 0

Super-Easy Rocky Road Fudge

Rich and truly divine fudge! The easy way is the microwave method. This Rocky Road Fudge is a delicious mixture of chocolate chips, sweetened condensed milk, marshmallows and walnuts. It is easy to make and perfect to bring to all of your holiday parties!


Ingredients:
2 cups (12-oz. pkg.) NESTLÉ® TOLL HOUSE® Semi-Sweet Chocolate Morsels
1 can (14 oz.) NESTLÉ® CARNATION® Sweetened Condensed Milk
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
3 cups miniature marshmallows
1 1/2 cups coarsely chopped walnuts

Directions:

LINE 13 x 9-inch baking pan with foil; grease lightly.

MICROWAVE morsels and sweetened condensed milk in large, uncovered, microwave-safe bowl on HIGH (100%) power for 1 minute; STIR. Morsels may retain some of their original shape. If necessary, microwave at additional 10- to 15-second intervals, stirring just until morsels are melted. Stir in vanilla extract. Fold in marshmallows and nuts.

As a side note:
I always melt chocolate chips in a pan on the oven with a little butter so they doesn't burn to the bottom of the pan.  JillPRESS mixture into prepared baking pan. Refrigerate until ready to serve. Lift from pan; remove foil. Cut into pieces.
This is one of my all time favorite christmas candies I have been making since I was a child: I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.  Jill


The crispy texture and flavor of chopped peppermint candy contrasts with the creaminess of chocolate fudge in these sweet treats. This confection will leave breathless, but with a chocolaty aftertaste in your mouth!

Peppermint Crunchies


1/2 cup evaporated milk
1/2 cup granulated
sugar
1 tablespoon light corn syrup
1
cup semisweet chocolate chips
1 cup chopped nuts
1/2 cup chopped peppermint candy
1/4 teaspoon peppermint extract

  1. Line a 13 x 9 x 2-inch baking pan with wax paper; set aside.
  2. Combine evaporated milk, sugar and corn syrup in a large saucepan. Bring to a boil, stirring constantly. Cook for 2 minutes; remove from heat.
  3. Add chocolate chips; stir until melted. Cool for 10 minutes.
  4. Stir in nuts, candy and extract. Drop by tablespoonfuls onto baking sheet. Let stand until firm.

Makes 24 pieces.

Monday, December 3, 2012

INFORMATION EVERY
WOMEN SHOULD HAVE:
 
Statistics show that nearly everyone in America is either currently a victim of abuse, survivor of abuse or knows someone who is. You probably know someone who needs the information provided in this book.

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Breaking the Cycle of Abuse:

How to Move Beyond Your Past to Create an Abuse-Free Future
Front Cover
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John Wiley & Sons, Nov 1, 2004 - 288 pages
"A beacon of hope for women and men who fear that they will pass the abuse they have suffered on to their children, partners, or employees. Humane and compassionate but also clear and down to earth, this is a wonderful contribution to the literature on healing."
--Lundy Bancroft, author of When Dad Hurts Mom and Why Does He Do That?

"In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, Beverly Engel leads readers step by step through a program that will help survivors of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse in childhood to heal from their wounds so they don't need to re-enact their abusive pasts. She offers expert advice and strategies to help parents and would-be parents avoid doing to their children what was done to them and helps both abusers and victims in emotionally and physically abusive relationships make vitally important changes in their relationships."
--Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents and Emotional Blackmail

If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a child or adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, it isn't a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abuse but rather a question of how--whether you will become an abuser or continue to be a victim. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, a leading expert on emotional and sexual abuse, explains how to stop the cycle of abuse once and for all. Her step-by-step program provides the necessary skills for gaining control over emotions, changing negative attitudes, learning healthy ways of communicating, healing the damage from prior abuse, and seeking out support.

Throughout, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories including her own experiences with abusive behavior. Breaking the Cycle of Abuse gives you the power to shatter abusive patterns for good and offers a legacy of hope and healing for you and your family.

Why Does He Do That?:

Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Front Cover
130 Reviews
Penguin, Sep 1, 2003 - 408 pages
In this book, domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft uses his perspective as a therapist for abusive and controlling men to help women, their children, and other family members who have been touched by abuse understand why abusers behave the way they do and what can be done about it. Bancroft teaches women how to survive and improve an abusive relationship; how to determine how dangerous an abuser is and when it is impossible to rectify a situation; and how to get out of a relationship safely. Bancroft identifies nine types of abusive men, addressing different styles, from the physical batterer to the strictly verbal abuser. He dispels the pervasive societal myths surrounding abuse, exposing common excuses used by abusers, such as having experienced an abusive childhood or substance addiction. Bancroft answers commonly asked questions, such as what warning signs of abuse to look for early in a relationship; what is and isn't abusive behavior; how to know if a woman and her children are in danger; and how to tell when a man is really changing.
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